I listened to this video and it's not surprising. I thought of the typical problem, "Nobody is competing with you? Why are you always competing with us?" This would have typical competitions like:
- Comparing the performance of each other's children.
- Asking someone when one's child will get married.
- Telling their child so and so has "matured" by getting married (never mind some of the worst quarrels are between married people) and that the other is still "immature". Never mind that the "immature" person may be raising up valid points!
- Getting angry when somebody prospers, even if it's just a little bit of prosperity. Then again, the person getting jealous may be living a glamorous life fueled by unpaid debt.
As I listened to it, I can relate to it because I've been a victim of such practices and also had done such practices. It's a really toxic trait East Asians need to stop.
Let's fact it that no culture is perfect. Culture is something that needs to evolve. After all, China got rid of the awful practice of foot binding and arranged marriages. Chinese women learned their rights. Now, some Chinese men even marry non-Chinese because of the gender imbalance, in some areas. Culture is something that can improve.