I may not be happy with how Dr. Phil handles men's right to self-defense. I also looked into this video of Brat Camp. I recall watching the full episode a decade ago, which may have been taken down. There were also some clips on Dr. Phil's website (which I believe were taken down) that also involve Wendy's need to let go of her daughter. One of the mothers mentioned Noah's possible fear that his mother may have wished he died instead of his sister (or I think, paternal half-sister) died instead of him.
As I look at the video, it gets irritating on both sides. I refuse to side with the child and the mother. I couldn't be certain what really happened. I found Wendy's now outdated blog (wondering what she does now). How reliable is her story? I read it and it doesn't seem to contain an exaggeration.
However, as I watched this video, there seemed to be a contradiction. Noah says that his father treats him with respect. However, Wendy mentions this, which may contradict the whole thing:
His father no father left hand prints on his bottom so evident to me that I had to take N to the emergency room which ended up with a report stating there was a “preponderance of evidence to suggest excessive force was used.”
How true was this? I'm no psychologist and I couldn't be sure if Noah's mother is lying. It's like almost both the mother and the son are manipulative psychopaths. What may infuriate me, as far as my memory is concerned, are the following:
- The part where Noah tells his mother, Wendy about the airline music incident. Sure, Wendy must tell her son about airline rules. However, Wendy isn't apologetic about turning her music up and up, which may have gotten her into trouble with flight attendants.
- Dr. Phil seems to be one-sided with the whole part of Noah and Wendy. Honestly, I'm still ticked off at Dr. Phil's stance that he thinks men should never hit women in self-defense. Just walk away? Walk away faster? What if it's a psychologically ill woman? Sure, Noah should've never slapped his mother, Wendy. Such behavior has to be learned from somewhere. Dr. Phil addressed the slap. To be honest, I feel both mother and son really need to be addressed about their severe levels of immaturity.
- Dr. Phil seems to think that he could reconcile fights that quick. What wasn't taken into account is that Noah and Wendy have a very bad relationship as mother and son.
- The fact that Dr. Phil also encourages bribery. Children should learn to do chores without the promise of a reward. I'll have to give credit to Wendy for giving Noah a time out, without losing her cool in a later part.
Just listening to Wendy here, this may explain why her son Noah is getting aggressive. "I didn't ask for my daughter to go away, I didn't ask for the son I was given." It's a real heavy problem. Wendy should've sought professional help. Sometimes, crazy behavior like Wendy's is a result of some prolonged trauma. Noah ends up suffering as a result because of htat!
This one is still a huge piece of the puzzle. Hopefully, both Wendy and Noah are getting along better. However, with Dr. Phil, I'm still upset over his stance on men not being allowed to hit women, in self-defense.